My dearest friend, Sophia Cosola

I am in a world that has always felt a little crooked. My family wasn’t normal, my name wasn’t normal, my journey has not been normal. Please don’t mistake this for me saying I had a bad childhood. It was great and typical. And most of my friends’ families probably had a lot more in common with us than I could have ever known anyway.

Crooked to me isn’t bad, it just needs straightening. And my ability to say too much most of the time, or overshare, or assume that the people around me are just as open as I am has gotten me into trouble. I am who I am, and ain’t no one gonna change me. Wink. Wink.

In layman’s terms, I think what I mean is that I am pretty much an open book. And for that reason, it is very, very hard to find people who love me for me.

✨ In my journey back to life, I love sharing the people, places, and creations that bring light into my days — and I hope they’ll inspire you too.

So this week, I’m dedicating my blog in My Second Half Self to my amazing friend and sister from another momma, Sophia Cosola.

Sophia has held many hats and has all the talents I’ve always wanted to have, but I’m just not as good as her! Her current passion is real estate and as a broker, I am counting on her to be honest about when it’s time for us to list our home and get the heck outta here. As much as she would hate it, I know she’d be honest and tell me when the time is right.

I have been told so many times in my lifetime that I look unapproachable, or that my face is mean, or, “you are intimidating.” I have had bosses that would not promote me due to the fact that I wouldn’t take anyone’s bad attitude towards me. My boundaries were always a problem for my bosses. Maybe it’s not my boundaries that they didn’t like, maybe it was my attitude towards them. Oh well, it doesn’t matter. Cuz when your soul claims another as its twin flame or sister soul, you are bound for life and beyond.

Sophia!!!!! You are my spirit friend, the one who I can relate my family history to, the one who isn’t shocked about the stories I’ve told, the one who has lived through so much more than any of us but has the biggest and best heart and soul, and the one who has said, “cuz you’re a badass” to me. You’re the one who can put people “on notice” with just eye contact, the ultimate badass I can only hope to emulate.

You are my guide in this afterlife within this lifetime. You know what’s next, you know how to claim your space in every room, and your grace and wisdom are beautiful.

A woman of all the ideas and even more talents, who truly loves all of her people so much, I don’t know how much she actually saves for herself. Sophia, you are my guide. You are still hopeful and optimistic even though you’ve seen and been through the worst things. I don’t know how I became so lucky to have you as my friend. But I’m not gonna give you up ever.

Thanx for being here.

XOXO
BRI